Many of us start out parenting the way we were handled by our parents and anticipate our kids to respond the same way as we did. But every kid has a different behavior and most of the time our tried and tested formulas don’t work on them. Then it’s time to make a change. Here are some principles of improving a kid’s behavior.

Before changing your response towards the kid just ask some questions to yourself. Is the behavior sensible as compared to the kid’s age? Also take into account the kids mood and gather as much possible information as you can about the things happening in their life. Now we will discuss the principles of improving a kid’s behavior. The first and foremost key to change a kid’s annoying behavior is to change your behavior first. The kid normally wants your attention or your defeat in response of his behavior.

So, change your primary response first. The second key is to practice the behavior that you expect from a child. Practicing will make them behave in the way you want. For example, if you need help ask for it in a normal tone. They third key is to ignore. If your kid is persistently doing the things that you don’t want in spite of your warning again and again just ignore. Some behaviors take time to change or improvise. The last thing is appreciation. If your kid behaves the way you want appreciate it. That will help your child practice the appropriate behavior again and again.

All children tend to behave badly from time to time. But when insolence, opposition and rebuttal to obey are persistent, the action affects the whole family and requires a more serious interference. The above tips will help you improvise your kid’s behavior.

It can be easily observed that mammals enjoy playful behavior and are very good in developmental consequences. As per a recent study that was published in the Nov. 16, 2011 issue of the online journal PLoS ONE, young chimpanzees were observed to play and develop in the same way as human children.

It was found that chimpanzee’s solitary play is at its peak time in infancy and the time spent in social play was constant between infants and juveniles. On the other hand, when these animals grow up, their complexity and playmate choice alters. When the behaviors of chimpanzees and human kids were observed it came out that there were significant quantitative and qualitative development in play behavior from infancy to juvenility.

It must be noted that this type of human data comes from psychological research and not from any ethological research.

When chimpanzees were compared with kids at a 3 year old German kindergartener, it was found that chimpanzees had no preference to work in collaboration. Chimpanzees and children were made to choose between a collaborative and a non- collaborative problem solving approach, but chimps chose non-collaborative approach and the kids did the opposite.

This interesting research was conducted by researchers from the MPA for Evolutionary Anthropology in Leipzig and the MPI for Psycholinguistics in Nijmegen. The results confirmed that human beings are built on collaboration from a very young age and are very keen in gaining collaboration from others.

On the other hand, chimpanzees are cooperative too but somehow they don’t like working in collaboration. They like doing things alone instead of doing them with others.

In the study, results came differently between preschool children and adults. The final outcome was that the various stages of development changes with the development of the brain due to age. Moreover, it was also observed that the brain becomes better equipped to make reasoned judgements and also to integrate an understanding of the mental stress when we grow up.

This recent study also revealed that the extent of activation in different parts of the brain, when the participants were exposed to morally laden videos changed in terms of age. Younger children responded differently to certain videos as compared to the elder generation.

However, you cannot exactly state the reason for such an indifferent behavior. Moreover, every child has its own particular reason for not going to bed or for not liking to go at the time their parents wants them to.

So to be able to avoid such problems and to make life easy, parents must try to figure out the problem that causes the challenge of getting your child into bed.

For this, you will have to give enough time to the child while he/she is going off to sleep. Try using new ideas of getting them off to sleep and if possible start this activity over the weekend so that you can have enough time in hand.

You can try to set a routine and follow it as far as possible. Also try to do them in order. Give some time to the child for relaxing before sending to finish homework. Help the child in his studies and spend time with him while he plays or watch TV.

Make sure that dinner is served at the same time everyday followed by going off to bed. Read them a story before they go to bed and ensure that the children are genuinely fast asleep before you go to sleep. Whatever be the situation, try to keep your calm.

But the case is different in adults. Adults are rather vocal about their concern and also they understand the feelings they go through due to change. However, being small, children find it difficult to deal with such situations rationally and this affects their behavior.

The reason for such behavior among children may vary. Some such common reasons include, shifting localities or houses, transferring schools, arrival of a sibling, divorce of parents, or coming of a new partner in the life of their divorced parents.

There can be other reasons as well like problems and issues faced at school or in the friend circle or many other such things. Although these things seem easy for us, but these might upset small kids and make it difficult for them to handle such situations.

If your children are also facing such problems, than it’s time for you take the matter seriously. Try to explain them the situation and tell them that life doesn’t end here. There are many happy and exciting things in store in life. Give them reasons, which they understand, and thereby make it easy for them to deal with such situations.

A little concern and an eye on your child’s changing behavior will let you understand their situation and you will be able to help them to cope with it.

Everyone likes partying, especially kids. But kids get so exited about them that they tend to end up creating nuisance in parties. It is important that they understand the fact that they are in a social set up and behaving accordingly is important. Here are some simple steps to teach your kids how to behave in parties.

When hosting a party, you should tell your kid not to invite someone to a party publicly. This is true especially in the case of schools, where they need to invite everyone or should privately invite the select few. It is important that they remain very discreet about the party as those who have not been invited might get hurt. Parents need to make the kids understand that it is not polite. Kids should be taught to be a good host by teaching some basic manners like saying thank you whenever someone gives them a gift. Always encourage the kids to send thank you notes to the guests after the party is over.

While going to parties there are a few things that need to be kept in mind. Acknowledging the invitation is very important. Incase you cannot go to a party you should make it a point to explain the reason for it to the host.  Another important thing is being on time for a party. Being subtle is very crucial. Kids normally tend to be very blunt about things, so they need to be taught that if they dislike something they shouldn’t say it directly.

Parents who have children with good table manners always have an orderly and enjoyable family meals regardless of whether they are at home or outside in a restaurant. Children may take some time to get used to the table manners, so it is important for the parents to be consistent and patient with them.

The key is to start teaching your child with table manners right from an early age. Initially, parents can make sure that the child has his meals without making too much mess and completes the meal sitting down instead of running around the house with food in his hands.

Parents must make their kids understand that they should not leave the table without asking to be excused. This is not a hard rule for even a three year old to understand. Children learn what they observe around them. Parents must show the kids the right way to use the knife, fork and spoon. Primary focus should be given on teaching the proper use of utensils to your kid.

As the child grows older, parents can start teaching them more specific rules regarding table manners. The child must be made aware about some of the basic table manners like not to start eating unless everybody has been served, putting the napkin in the lap and not making rude noises when a family meal is in progress. Children should also be praised for their proper behavior as this would go a long way in reinforcing good table manners     

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Stranger anxiety is the distress that infants experience when they come into contact with people who are new to them. Babies, generally starts showing sign of stranger anxiety when they are as little as six months old. As babies become older, they start to develop a preference for the people around them depending on their perception of who takes their most care. They start differentiating people and are more comfortable with people whom they are familiar with, generally, the close family members. The stranger anxiety is at its highest level among kids when they are 12-15 months old, it gradually decreases there on. During this period, they would play and let only a selected people hold them.

The common reactions which may exhibit when babies experience stranger anxiety may be crying, whining and babies may even hide from the person who is causing the anxiety. Parents should not treat stranger anxiety as a mental or emotional disorder rather it is a part of the overall development which every child goes through in one way or the other.

Parents must step up to the responsibility and try to lessen the stranger anxiety in their children. They should not pressurize their children to socialize and should give them enough time to get used to new people. They must reassure their child and should be present when they are being introduced to new people. Parents must introduce new people to their children at every possible opportunity.